Though taking your time with someone is usually pretty sound advice, the explanation this woman gave as to why it's better to have sex right after the first date has struck a cord with many.
Viral sex advice
The TikTok clip has been viewed more than 25 million times since first being posted, and many have praised the woman for her words of wisdom. Eve Culling, the woman in the video giving the advice, explains that what happened to her should be a lesson to be learned for everyone else.
Essentially, Culling explains that she was sorely mistaken after having taken a prolonged amount of time to get to know the guy before finding out that they were sexually incompatible once they finally had sex. In the video, she says:
I recently was seeing this guy—we were taking things slow. We probably had 10 to 15 dates before actually having sex. Before we had sex, I asked him, 'So, what do you like during sex, do you have any kinks?'
He was like, 'No, I don't really have any kinks, nothing crazy.'
So we go to have sex, at first it was fine. His d**k was fine, he was fine, and then he starts to dirty talk. Now, I know what you're thinking. 'Dirty talk is sexy, dirty talk is hot.' I agree, completely. But this man did not do your typical—he could have said anything other than what he said.
Let me reenact this for you. I am him: 'Yeah, yeah, you want me to get you pregnant? You want me to put a baby in you so everyone knows you're mine?!'
Better to find out sooner rather than later
To be clear, the kink in and of itself was not the part that turned her off—it was the way he went about it. As a result, when he asked her vehemently to engage back in dirty talk to what he had just said to her, she revealed the following about the uncomfortable interaction:
What the f**k do you want me to say? 'Yeah, you wanna pay for my abortion? Yeah, you wanna be a single dad?' Months of getting to know this guy, getting deep with him, getting personal with him... out the door. Have sex on the first date, you heard it here first.
In other words, Culling makes a good point in that perhaps finding out right off the bat if you are sexually compatible with someone will save you the time and the disappointment later on.