Mindful masturbation: What is it and how can you do the sexual act?

It’s not a secret that most of us masturbate, whether or not we like to admit it. Here’s how you can be mindful while doing it.

What is mindful masturbation?
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What is mindful masturbation?

Mindful masturbation is the newest self-care trend that we all need. After all, masturbation shouldn’t be a sordid sexual secret. Masturbation is an imminent part of your physical and mental wellbeing, which is why it’s gaining crazy popularity.

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What is mindful masturbation?

Mindful masturbation is an intimate and transformative practice. It is a sensual way to explore your pleasure, let your body get grounded and take the opportunity to escape your mind for a few pleasurable moments. You entice yourself, squeeze your body, pull, push, and caress yourself as if you were with a lover. It's not about how adaptable or orgasmic you are; Mindful Masturbation isn't about achieving a specific goal.

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It doesn't entail traditional yoga or meditation, but it does urge you to incorporate conscious breathing, movement, music, touch, dancing, attention placement, and intentions into your self-care routines. The idea is to connect to pleasure without being distracted by goals or stimuli while exploring your body from head to toe without rushing or having an agenda.

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How to do it?

Mindful masturbation may sound like a lot but it’s actually one of the best practices that we can learn. Not only does it help to unwind and destress, but it also increases your sexual confidence. You get comfortable within your body and know what gives you the maximum pleasure. Here are a few ways you can use to practice mindful masturbation:


Nothing says being mindful like breathwork. Try starting with blissful breathwork that allows your body and mind to be centred.

Session it

Each practice needs to have a start and an end time. Give yourself a set time to pleasure yourself as you sigh, moan or laugh through the process of mindful masturbation.

Pelvic and Hips

As you try to mindfully guide your way to an orgasm, ensure to engage your pelvic floor and hips in the process. Even during breathwork, let your pelvic and hip muscles react to the exercise too.

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Love your body

When they say love yourself like you want to be loved, they’re not wrong. After you set the tone, caress your body and play with it just as you’d like a lover to do it for you. Don’t stay limited to just one region but explore your entire body. Anything that helps your entire body feel the emotion and not just your lady parts.


The best part of mindful masturbation is that it doesn’t have to be done alone. You can do it with someone else, music or toys.

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