Are you fed up with one-night stands, but don't know how to stop and keep enjoying yourself? Maybe you're fraysexual. Don't panic, there's nothing to worry about. Here's everything you need to understand and find your way back to love.
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What is fraysexuality?
While some people only agree to have sex if they have feelings, attachment, if they have shared more with their partner. Others, on the contrary, prefer to leave emotions aside, and have a sexual relationship with a stranger. But here again, there are two very distinct characteristics.
Preferring one-night stands for a few months, to enjoy life until you find the right person, or to get over a break-up. That's one thing. Fraysexuality, on the other hand, goes much deeper and can be a real problem. Fraysexuality is in fact a sexual orientation in its own right, describing a person who is only sexually attracted to another person with whom they are not 'emotionally involved'. If they become attached to someone, they lose their sexual attraction to them.
Does fraysexuality prevent you from being in a relationship?
Being fraysexual doesn't mean you can't be in a relationship. On the other hand, it can be a long and perilous road to finding the perfect balance between someone who is fraysexual, and someone who is attracted to the other. But it can be done! Here's how, thanks to the advice of a specialist in the field:
- Become a hugger
Fraysexuality is all about hardcore sex, but the desire for tenderness and closeness is there. So both partners can take the time to kiss, cuddle and care for each other.
- Bringing desire
Some fraysexuals experience 'reactive arousal' through mutual or separate masturbation, the use of toys, threesomes, erotic films... It's possible to find a way to bring desire to life. And finally, routine is never welcome between them!
- Explore BDSM
With trust and limits, both partners can try their hand at BDSM. The practice doesn't necessarily involve sexual intercourse. It's also possible to indulge in sexy scenes, tie each other up, spank each other...
- Take the time to share things together
Being in love, close and connected doesn't necessarily mean making love. It's possible to be a couple, in love and close, without being sexually bonded. By doing things together on a regular basis, you'll build trust, and the other person's need for you won't just be physical.
Whatever the case, never forget to communicate. Whether you're fraysexual or your partner is, it's important to talk about your desires, fears, desires and fears. All this will help to establish a framework for the relationship so that you can enjoy a fully fulfilling sex life.
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This article has been translated from Gentside FR.
