Having sex isn't always the magical experience we wish it was every single time. Sometimes, there are very crucial elements that are missing that make the act less memorable (to put it lightly) than others.
The one crucial question
It can either sometimes be a lack of sexual chemistry, physical attraction or even just a plainly questionable one-night-stand, the variables that determine a good sexual encounter are numerous.
However, according to a top medical expert specializing in human sexuality, Dr Emily Morse, the most important thing to keep in mind when looking to optimize the quality of your sexual encounters is communication! But this doesn't necessarily mean you should be having a full-blown conversation mid-shag. Instead, Doctor Morse reveals that there is one crucial question that you have to absolutely ask to heighten your sexual encounters. She says:
In my opinion, one of the hottest things ever is when a partner asks: 'Do you like this?'
Some of us expect our partners to intuitively KNOW our sexual wants, but that's rarely possible. Checking in during sex and letting your partner know when they're doing something right leads to more pleasure, a deeper connection and better communication in other areas of your life. It's the key to sexual success.
Communication is key!
Doctor Morse further explains that by asking your partner if you like what is being done to them (or what they are doing to you), it is not only an act of curtsey but of generosity and kindness as well.
It should come as no surprise that communication is the key to opening the door to better sex. In a survey conducted by the lifestyle website YourTango.com, 100 mental health professionals were asked what the number one reason causing marriages to fall apart was and 65% of them cited communication problems.