'Never have I ever' is a classic, its often used as a drinking game and it almost always turns into a hilarious opportunity to find out what your friends have done in bed. Lately, a much less vulgar version of the game has recently been trending onTikTok.
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One woman's version of the video has taken off after she used the platform to talk about the heartbreaking realities of being female.
This particularTikTok trend was started by CEO and makeup artist Sarah Biggers-Stewart. In the video, Biggers-Stewart states ten awful instances that are an unfortunate reality for a huge amount of women and encouraged others to take part in the video.
The video, that has been viewed over 30,000 times asks women to put a finger down if they've ever:
1. Been drugged
2. Has a friend that has been drugged
3. If you've been followed
4. Used your keys or pepper spray for safety
5. If you habitually lock your doors and check the backseat of your car
The video continues with five more nasty events and almost everywomanhas encountered at least one of these instances. The video was replicated 10,000 times by women who have all experienced one of these heartbreaking 'realities', some even just teenagers. Biggers-Stewart noted in the comments:
TO BE CLEAR: this is not about hating men. My intention is to spread awareness of what reality looks like for so many of us. It’s often glossed over as an outlier experience, when in reality, most (but not all) women I know have dealt with these things and feel alone.
A trending comment on the TikTok, made in an attempt to criticise Sarah's video stated that instances such as these aren't exclusively a female issue and men are often victims too. Sarah definitely didn't deny this stating:
Here’s what I’m going to say and I’m only going to say this once. Men are absolutely victims too and not all men are perpetrators. I never have and never would say any different. I will always support men who come forward with their stories, it’s still underrepresented by our media and still frowned upon within our society. But taking videos for women specific to women’s experiences and trying to co-opt them with your message of ‘not all men’ and ‘what about men?’ – it’s invalidating as hell.
Hopefully, those who have heard Sarah's messagecan know that they aren't alone and by opening up and talking about these realities we can all feel a little more heard.
