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Reasons why people commit adultery
There are many reasons why people commit adultery, and we're not here to judge. The pandemic has definitely put things into perspective, and in some cases, perhaps it has even highlighted what was already failing.
Sex therapist Vanessa Marin tells Health:
We tend to think that people cheat because they’re unhappy in their relationships, and that certainly can be true, but the reality is more complicated.
It's important we recognize there are plenty of people in perfectly happy relationships who also cheat.
Marin goes on to say that people who cheat feel lost in some sort of way.
Let's dive in and look at some of the reasons that might push someone to cheat on their partner.
Boredom: Stuck at home and feeling bored? You're probably looking for ways to distract yourself, and going to meet people online might sound like a good way to pass the time. One thing leads to the next and you're falling for ComputerGirl2.0 and finding yourself talking more with her than your partner.
Lack of intimacy: Intimacy in a couple is crucial, for obvious reasons. But perhaps you've had enough of seeing your partner's face and aren't particularly in the mood to get down and dirty before dozing off.
Feeling isolated and alone: You might be spending all your time in the same room as your partner physically, but that feeling of solitude could still be creeping in because, well, you haven't seen your lads in a while and social distancing can take a real toll on our mental health.
A change in routine: Any big changes to a couple's routine has the tendency to create tensions within the relationship.